Board Thread:Animal Jam Talk/@comment-36039540-20181218234736/@comment-36996285-20181219001334

Oh man, I'm really sorry to hear! I know exactly how it feels to lose items and feel like it was your fault.

But it wasn't your fault at all, so don't beat yourself up about it. If you wanna hear about how I got a green long for one den beta and lost that worth quickly, just read.

One day I had a fly trap beta, and someone traded me a green long collar, so I accepted and asked if they wanted to trade back, and the person said, "Nah I'm quitting AJ and you seem nice and have a snazzy look so you can keep it". I was so happy! It got traded around, and eventually I had a neon bow and a den beta, then an orange long. The orange long got traded for two blue shorts, then each blue short got trade for a cami and claw machine each. Fair trades, right? I gave away one of the camis. The other one I had on trade, and someone traded me two wavy bookcases. Not trying to brag, but I have a really good memory and I remembered seeing the worth of the non-default ones being a good long wrist(they traded default and pink), so I accepted, thinking it was a fair trade. They accepted SUPER fast, but I wasn't too concerned, and then I looked back at the worth and realized each one was worth a clothing beta AT MOST. I was so mad, super sad, and frustrated that I hadn't gotten the user of the person who traded. The claw machines I lost to trust, because i traded one and got it back, but I became more trusting and traded both, then they locked. I was pretty much self-destructing myself, but a few days after, I told myself over and over again that this was just a game and a matter of pixels, and that I was better then the people who had scammed me because I had a better heart then they did, and you should have a similar mindset too. Then, after that, I made another decision - I was going to try to get a black long, for fun, then divide it up into long wrists and short collars so I could do giveaways for people who were victims of scamming, who really cared more about rares then I did(not saying it's a bad thing, i just play AJ for fun).

I know that it's not as easy as someone telling you to just think of it as a game, and I am kind of being a hypocrite - it can be frustrating when people just tell you, "It's okay, it's not your fault, blah blah blah". That's exactly what I'm doing, but I've been through it all - you get that horrified feeling of realization, a sick feeling in your stomach, and for me my cheeks would flare. I would wonder, "If I ask people if they wanna trade back when they over-trade, then how come I don't get the same?" It's frustrating and infuriating. I so wish I could do something to help you out, I'm not very rare myself but just keep pushing - join giveaways, do TFD if you're a member, and keep in mind that you should NEVER EVER hate yourself for making a small mistake and losing items - it's omar's fault if anything, for not being able to empathize and give you back your longs. You stood your ground and did what you could, and when the point comes when what's done is done, you keep working at it and get past the roadbump. Because that selfish person Omar isn't going to get far with their greedy ways, and you're going places in AJ by just being kinder and keeping your head held high.

(Also, I think El1013 and SecretNinjaGirl1 are both hosting giveaways, you could join those to get a chance at some rares! I'll include links when possible).