User blog comment:Youmakemyheartgonootnoot/I'm Too Shy In School./@comment-36996285-20190427183921

Hey, I can totally relate. I have clinical anxiety(GAD), and I can probably tell you a bit about the prediction, because I get the same thing. I don't do great when I'm suddenly in a social situation, so I totally unerstand what you mean.

Anways, I'm like the "shy/quiet/smartish" type as well, but I try not to make myself the center of attention and I always feel calm when there's a regular, comfortable atmosphere, which is similar to what you're talking about. However, because we're so scared and alertive of heightened social situations, it's like you can recognize a change in that atmosphere because you're so aware of it. I get the same thing; it's like I can tell when a teacher's about to call on me. So I totally understand how you feel.

One thing is, don't try to change yourself; it's better to just go with what happens. I get yelled at by my parents for being too under-confident(like for keeping my head down when I walk, or flailing my hands around too much when i talk), so my parents always tell me to "Fake it till you make it", which is cliché, but works. In other words, walk around with your head held high, like you aren't afraid to face what's coming, and eventually, it becomes a constant attitude of overall confindence-ness(lol that's probably not a word)(I'm quoting my parents here XD). I also tend to be super slef-concious in gym, somethign I wanted to improve.

Also, crying to me isn't a sign of weakness, it's a sign of strength; it's not easy to unbottle your emotions and cry, and usually, when you cry, it's worth it. I used to cry myself to sleep every night because I was afraid to go to school the next day and have to deal with everything that went on(not gonna go into that, but at the time i was having major issues with depression and my friends), and I didn't tell my parents until they noticed I wasn't getting enough sleep and waking up with bloodshot eyes.

So nothing at all is wrong with you, don't tell yourself that. What I did was a really stupid and silly system, but I told myself that if I raised my hand at least once in every class for every day of the week, I could get a pack of Welch's gummies from the lunch line(probably not the best system so I'm not telling my parents XD). It's like a nice way to reward yourself for kinda speaking out during class, which is like a social situation, so my suggestion would be that if you ever know the answer to the question in class and are confident of it, just go ahead and raise your hand. And as for the system that I'm doing, you can do something similar if you want XD, but never be too hard on yourself about this. if you ever feel down about it, just think of your strengths and your abilities, or do something that you're good at or you enjoy, and in that way you kinda prove your skills to yourself. I hope this helps, and feel free to talk to me anytime! <3